I'M BACK BITCHES!

So, I know my departure probably seemed abrupt and I’m sorry about that. I do appreciate everyone who expressed disappointment and encouraged me to start writing again. Unfortunately, the blog break was due to some legal stuff I had to deal with but we are good to go again. I know the vagueness is annoying but I promise, it’s nothing fun or interesting; just something preventing me from posting for a period of time which sucked.

Anyway, now I’m back and I’d say better than ever but that would be a reach. My family and I survived the pandemic while my husband and I tried to maintain some semblance of sanity. I hit a bout of depression which doesn’t take into consideration that you still have to show up for your family, so that was a struggle, but I think I’m on the other side now. Since my last post, my kids have hit a different stage of asshol-ism and I truly realize that while I love them more and more every day, sometimes their likeability is lacking.

We have 2 kids. We had a 2nd child for our 1st, so they would always have each other. Sounds great in theory, right? Well, the reality is that lately they are grade A fuckers to each other and it’s me that has to serve as mediator and referee. My favorite is when they get super snitchy and have to tell me every minor infraction the other commits. It’s like they thrive on experiencing the other getting reprimanded or punished. Sadly for them, they are often met with a more dismissive response of “work it out”. Does this mean I’m being a lazy mom? Some may say “yes”, but I find it beneficial so I don’t have to listen to the argument or solve it. Also, it helps them communicate with each other; or so I tell myself. Most parents of multiple kids have said the same: that their kids either love or hate one another. While I appreciate the empathy shared by other parents, how do we get them to like each other? Or, do we?

My sister and I are extremely close and I want nothing more than that for my 2 fuckers. I want them to be besties and do this life-thing together, but when does that begin? Someone once said to me: “Ages 7-12 are the sweet spot”. I don’t remember who said this, but you are a fucking liar or have better kids than me, I guess. I’m pretty sure my daughter is already experiencing the fluctuations in hormones, which really has me excited for the pre-teen/teenage years, and my son, well, he seems to be happiest if he’s playing, watching or doing anything baseball. He’s 6 so we haven’t hit that “sweet spot” but I’m hoping boys are different. Don’t get me wrong, he still has his little smart-ass moments and periodic breakdowns when he is given an answer he doesn’t like. I suppose, looking back, my sister and I weren’t always each other’s favorite person, but I don’t remember when this changed. I’m just hoping, for my kids, this changes soon.

Oh, and by the way, to all of you stay at home parents, kudos to you! I mean really, especially in the summer, how do you do it day in and day out? I find crafts and create plans that I think will last all day but then, by lunch, we’ve done everything, the kids are “SOOOO BORED”, with constant bickering and I’m spent. I really can’t wait for camp just to give them some separation. Oh and sidenote, why is it whenever they are with someone else or sitters they always get along so well? Please, tell me all your secrets to your sanity! Is it hypnotism, therapy, drugs, a combination of all of it? Maybe just heavy drinking?

In any event, I’m excited to be back to writing and hope you’ll continue to enjoy the posts. And, let me know if there is a topic you’d like me write about. I love hearing all of your feedback and content ideas. I’ll keep enjoying my cocktails and embrace the days that my fuckers are kind to each other, and to me, for that matter. I hope you’ll do the same!